Still ruminating, thinking about a post I need to make. How does one convey that they were hurt by a group's actions without hurting friends who belong to that group?
Speaking as a person that is from that group, it's your blog and you should be able to say whatever you want to say. I know I won't be offended because me and A feel the same way you do, I think. If people get offended, then they shouldn't read your blog. If you were writing an article for a paper, than I would agree with your hesitance, but it's YOUR blog, so vent. We can talk more about it tomorrow night, but this is what blogs are for, to vent.
Ditto Amy. We don't always all agree on everything, and that's okay. And when your feelings get hurt, it's okay for you to vent. Especially when it's on your own blog! Do you ever go read Feminist Mormon housewives? There's an interesting discussion going on about this very topic right now.
I find that when feeling a need to express a sense of betrayal or to stand up for myself, that honestly expressing my feelings and trying to gain some insight into why I felt like I did is helpful. Much more helpful than say finger-pointing at the ones that caused those feelings in the first place. And, all in all, seems to be a more adult approach to the problem.
Maybe, just maybe, that the group that caused you distress will come to understand that their actions, intentionally or unintentionally, had consequences that were not great.
You say what you want to say and know that your friends from that group love you anyway. We are all free to have our own opinions and we won't agree on them 100% of the time. Speak your mind Kristal. It's what I love so much about you.
Everyone's entitled to voice their opinion...which I guess is kind-of why we're in this mess eh:) I know I simply can not find the words to express the way I feel about ALL this and for EVERYONE involved. So if you can find words for how you feel...
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Speaking as a person that is from that group, it's your blog and you should be able to say whatever you want to say. I know I won't be offended because me and A feel the same way you do, I think. If people get offended, then they shouldn't read your blog. If you were writing an article for a paper, than I would agree with your hesitance, but it's YOUR blog, so vent. We can talk more about it tomorrow night, but this is what blogs are for, to vent.
Ditto Amy. We don't always all agree on everything, and that's okay. And when your feelings get hurt, it's okay for you to vent. Especially when it's on your own blog! Do you ever go read Feminist Mormon housewives? There's an interesting discussion going on about this very topic right now.
I find that when feeling a need to express a sense of betrayal or to stand up for myself, that honestly expressing my feelings and trying to gain some insight into why I felt like I did is helpful. Much more helpful than say finger-pointing at the ones that caused those feelings in the first place. And, all in all, seems to be a more adult approach to the problem.
Maybe, just maybe, that the group that caused you distress will come to understand that their actions, intentionally or unintentionally, had consequences that were not great.
My 2 cents.
Take a look at these two blogs for how they handled this dilemma:
rivervision
Marshal Thomson
You say what you want to say and know that your friends from that group love you anyway. We are all free to have our own opinions and we won't agree on them 100% of the time. Speak your mind Kristal. It's what I love so much about you.
Thanks you guys!
Everyone's entitled to voice their opinion...which I guess is kind-of why we're in this mess eh:) I know I simply can not find the words to express the way I feel about ALL this and for EVERYONE involved. So if you can find words for how you feel...
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